Tension Not People

I just had a long chat[>15minutes] with my mom regarding "whats up and what shez up2";-), i found that people usually get a lot more tensed than required, if the work isn't iteratively running with a momentum; people usually get tensed and there's nothing to worry but when everything is correct they get even more tensed on things which are useless, this leads to a unhealthier and fearsome life.
This is the best example where people really have nothing but tension filled head, so eventually they are unable to work their best and produce spontaneous results (as expected).

My mom is @ mumbai doing some household work for Harish & Pooja भाबी (post marriage), this work is not that strenuous but as my brother keeps touring and भाबी is probably occupied with her job, shes the only soul to look after this particular thing. Now the main thing here is not any financial consideration, its just the mental stress/torture which she is put up with for around 3 to 4 months.

Things which really makes me ponder:

1. Why are these things not left to the couple to finish - choosing items & roaming etc , they have to stay there, so there is no point in mom doing the above things & taking pains for no reasons.
2. Y to even think of the "worst case scenario"- in such a blissful occasion (the wedding) there is no need to even go in such directions (unprecedented losses, health problems etc), everything happens for the good and that is what is meant to be. (i am not telling these scenarios are not possible but they can be left to GOD & what we can possibly do is to annex the precautionary things to our life till the weeding (at least))
3. Y to spend the whole day with the same work- we can surly make some time and have fun or maybe a chat with someone, it kinda acts as a stress busters in this time.
4. Consume pains & spread happiness- this is what everyone should do, if i get 2 know someones pains, i get tensed myself but if i get 2 know that someone's having a blast then it just makes my life peace(the purpose is "not 2 hide" it but its just "not to spread" it).
5. Stop complaining- I consider my family to fall in a very very fortunate lot of people in India with abundance in everything we require. But still as said and experience "life isn't perfect and i say it isn't meant to be", so we always have some turbulence in our day to day life, let it come and pass by (it shouldn't be a matter of hindrance)

Lets hope these are perfectly followed by everyone (its easier said than done- yeah rite;-))
hope for the best, this is the motivator of any management (from business to Wedding;-)).

PS:oh god!! render some assistance to the poor lady (my mom) and disappear all her worries for a better event to take place.
PS2: all these would not be a problem in my marriage, as its gonna be after a lot of years and i have full confidence is covering all the shortcomings and making their life peaceful....hehe...kudos 2 myself..